Have you ever called yourself an idiot, or worse, when something didn’t turn out as planned?
Stop that! An outcome doesn’t define you or your worth.
The growth mindset looks at an unfavorable outcome as a learning experience, not a failure. It’s ok to feel upset, but it’s never ok to berate yourself.
Need to nail that pitch? Reach out to someone whose work you respect and ask for advice. It can be as simple as asking for tips on how they prepare to deliver a killer pitch. Most people love to help. If you don’t ask the answer is always “no”.
If you put in the effort, challenge yourself and stay resilient when things aren’t going the way you hoped – it will pay off. The growth mindset will help you focus on improving. A fixed mindset will make you focus on being judged.
Ask any professional musician, speaker or athlete if they still work on improving their craft.
Spoiler alert – the answer is yes. So, never stop learning and don’t compare yourself to others – learn from them and create your own style.
I’ve heard people at the start of their career say things like “Oh, I could never do that” or “I could never be that good” while observing someone who has invested years and thousands of hours practicing whatever it is they’re doing.
Be mindful of where YOU are in your own career or journey. Rather than comparing yourself, identify one or two areas where you’d like to improve. Make a list of all the ways you can enhance the knowledge or skill you you’ve identified.
Workshops, classes, and seeking a mentor are just a few ways to expand your knowledge. If you’re on a tight budget or tight on time, online classes and audio books are a great option. Instead of checking status updates on your phone, listen to or read something relevant to your goal – every tidbit of new information will increase your confidence and expertise.
Best of all, it’s the perfect way to train yourself to choose the growth mindset.
What are you working towards? Let me know in the comments below.
Shifting your mindset sounds like a secret Ninja skill. What does it mean?
According to Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., Author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success we either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.
In the most basic terms, people with a “fixed” mindset believe we’re all born with a specific set of traits and intelligence that can’t change. In contrast, people with a “growth” mindset believe our intelligence and talent can change and grow through our efforts and experiences.
The fixed vs growth mindset gave a name to patterns I saw in my own family. The dramatic impact mindset had on their life gave me a first-hand look into the future. More on that in a later post.
For now, Let’s focus on one way to shift to a more productive mindset.
Better Done than Perfect
It might not seem like it, but perfectionism works against you. As a recovering perfectionist and workaholic, I can tell you that working an unhealthy number of hours to make everything perfect is a bad strategy. It leaves you drained and prone to errors. Without self-discipline and hard deadlines, perfectionism soon turns into procrastination and burn-out.
In my case, I had a twisted mantra that said the only thing worse than death was mediocrity. It created a mentality where every little thing had to be perfect and nothing ever felt good enough. I held myself back by not putting out work or ideas that felt less than perfect.
According to Dweck, the fixed mindset creates a need to prove yourself to others time and time again – a common trait of perfectionists.
A growth mindset always open to learning understands that ten good ideas that can be implemented right away are always better than one idea that took a year to perfect.
A closed mindset drives you to create unrealistic expectations that keep you from starting or finishing your most important goals.
Striving for excellence is different than making perfection the end goal.
Know the difference and keep yourself in check. To do this, find an accountability partner and create an actionable plan. Meet on a regular basis to review your progress.
Your accountability partner should be supportive and able to give you productive feedback while establishing realistic milestones. Commit to completing action items within the established timeline. Nothing will change if you don’t do the work.
If this is the first time you’ve worked with an accountability partner, look at it as a great foundation for building a growth mindset. Stretching yourself by trying something new definitely falls into the mindset you want to adopt. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
If you feel yourself becoming nervous or self-conscious in a new situation – remind yourself that you’re in a learning situation and perfectionism is not your friend. Allow yourself to be a student, keep an open mind and know that you are changing your mindset. And then, congratulate yourself.
I’d love to hear from you – what do you want to change this year?
Somewhere deep in your subconscious is the belief that resolutions are meant to be broken.
Try something different this year.
Reflect on what worked well for you and what you’d like to improve. Once you’ve identified that – create a plan with measurable actions, milestones, and a due date.
Once your plan is complete – share it with your accountability partner, or post it on social media for public accountability. Whatever your goal is, an accountability partner will keep you on track.
Surround yourself with supportive people – it makes a tremendous difference.
I belong to ShankMinds, an incredible mastermind group, led By Peter Shankman. The support we give each other fuels collective energy, creativity and momentum. It’s much easier to push through the tough days when you’re surrounded by people committed to your success.
Don’t pressure yourself to create goals you don’t feel committed to. Spreading yourself too thin slows you down. Focus your time and energy on the things that really matter to you. Rather than taking on more, take inventory of things that no longer serve you. Whether it’s your financial strategy or relationships you’ve outgrown, if it’s not working – it’s time to make a change.
It may feel daunting at first, but putting your life in order will release you from unnecessary stress. Best of all, you get to spend your time where it really counts.
What are you working on in 2018? Let me know in the comments below.
A few days ago I talked about the fear mindset and how it can really hold you back. The antidote to that of course is action. But once you get into action mode, the next step is perseverance. I’d like to introduce you to Naomi Dunford, someone I absolutely love. She’s genuine, swears like a sailor, and has been there – done that. Please take a minute to read one of her latest posts. What is it that you’re putting off?